Headstrong Health: The Psychology of Getting Fit

The body can be either like a well trained puppy or a defiant, mischievous child.

Choose your highest vision of yourself, and train it well.

Chances are you have conditioned your body to expect you to allow it some pretty unhealthy behaviors. If so, chances are even higher that those behaviors don’t exactly line up with your ideal vision of yourself. Just as a dog expects a treat after a walk, for example, your body is obedient. It remembers how you have treated it, not only in physical manifestation (i.e. excess fat is there to pop out and say, “I remember how you ate!”) but also in neural connections (i.e. false hunger cravings, like, “after dinner, we want dessert.”). Now, get ready for the big stick of responsibility here — you taught it that. I promise you, after a vitamin-efficient serving of vegetables, your body doesn’t want white sugar-laden dairy lard. That isn’t a natural response.

Have you ever seen comics about training a dog? The one where it says, Week 1: Dog is not allowed in bedroom or kitchen, and Week 5 ends with the dog eating at the table and sleeping on your pillow? That is precisely what happens with your body. Letting it do something sporadically is confusing. Saying you want sexy abs and those little back dimples is contradicted when you allow the behavior of fiending on “just one (aka 3)” pastries at work. All your actions- no “little” exceptions- should line up with your declared goals.

But.. I DESERVE it, don’t I?

Ah, I knew he’d come out. Let me introduce you to your inner child. No, not the playful, reminiscent, joyous, lighthearted child. THIS child is not our friend. I call mine “The Brat.” My Inner Brat does not want me to be the epitome of health and fitness that I want to see myself as . The inner brat wants me to stuff my face with sugar, fat, and simple carbohydrates despite not being hungry and having no nutritional value. My inner brat did not want see me conquer emotional eating. It likes you when you are not at your highest potential because it gets what it wants. It wants to keep you the way you are so it can keep complaining, stay undisciplined, and never reach your goals. It is essentially the way your ego self-handicaps you from becoming the real you.  Your body will go along with him at first, mimicking him by sending you false hunger symptoms. But it quite literally is all in your head, in your neural connections that you have solidified by giving in to The Brat. If you sit silently and listen deeper than the whining of your brat, you will realize your body sits quietly and needs nothing.

The best way to approach this is by patting the little brat on the head, taking reigns and realize YOU know what’s best for yourself, just as a parent knows what’s best for its child. A parent wouldn’t let a child run out into the street– why would you let your Brat decide the fate of your health? Your body is the victim here. Your body knows when it is being neglected, mistreated, or judged unfairly. Love it, and show it you care for it by making fit, clean decisions.

Giving in “once in a while” to habits that go against your goals sets your mind-body connection to random. Aligning your behavior patterns with your highest goals in mind sets you up for success. Aligning your actions with your best self is the simplest way to health- and your best you.

Take Home Practices:

“Am I doing this to cope with something emotionally?”  or “Is it my body that wants this, or is my inner brat just used to getting it? Does it make me closer to my goals?”

“What are the excuses I’m telling myself right now?”

My favorite: “What would my ideal self do right now?” (e.g. “What would my personal trainer self do?” “What would my health guru self do?”)

Suggested Reading:

“How Successful People Think” – John C. Maxwell

“Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul” – Deepak Chopra